If you’ve been wanting to “level up” in several areas of life, this blog post is for you. Sometimes the thought of self-improving across the board feels overwhelming, understandably so. It can be difficult to know where to start. However, by visualizing each aspect of your higher self one-by-one, it might become clearer and simpler. Ultimately, your higher self is already within you. It’s the version of yourself that you want to be, and deep down, you know you can be. You just have to bring that version of you to the forefront when making everyday decisions. So, without further ado, here are some questions you can ask yourself to connect with your higher self!
1- What kind of mindset does my higher self have?
If you’re a fan of this blog, chances are, adopting and maintaining a healthy, positive mindset is a priority for you. Each person has their own individualized mindset composed of countless intricacies. It encompasses how they view everything in life. With that being said, now’s the time to reflect on all the nuances of your mindset and evaluate what could use improvement vs. what’s already looking great.
For instance, you may operate from a scarcity mindset in dating (ex: “It feels like there are no good options left”) and know you need to change that to have better results. Shifting into an abundance mindset will allow you to let go of incompatible prospects and remain patient for who’s meant for you. At the same time, you may have a great mindset when it comes to nutrition. You may understand the importance of balance, which is reflected in your diet. With this example in mind, consider both the strengths and areas for growth in your current mindset.
2- What kinds of relationships (romantic, platonic, etc.) does my higher self have?
This question is a great way to reflect on your standards. Maybe you’ve been in friendships and romantic relationships where you didn’t uphold your standards, but when you step into your higher self, that won’t fly! Deep down, you know what you want and don’t want. You just have to honor those things as you explore potential candidates for friends/partners. As tempting as it may be to lower your standards just to feel less alone, I urge you to stay patient (as per #1). Having the wrong people fill prominent spots in your life is much lonelier than being alone. (This concept is elaborated on in my most recent post, Monthly Mindset Shift: How to Reframe Loneliness.)
3- How does my higher self treat others, especially within the relationships described above?
As per my post How to Strengthen Your Confidence in Any Relationship Status, “Your goal should be to confidently say that you’re the right partner for the type of partner you want. This is the best way to ensure that, no, you’re not asking for too much!” This applies to friendships and other non-romantic relationships as well! To validate your standards, all you have to do is uphold them for yourself. Become living proof that what you want exists, and it will be yours when the time is right!
4- What does my higher self do for work?
Over time, I’ve become a big believer that what a person does for work can be an incredibly small part of who they are. Of course, if you feel deeply connected to your work, it can take up more of your identity, but it’s ultimately whatever you make of it. With that being said, work is still a place where we spend a large portion of our time. So, if you hate your job or dread going to work everyday, why not change course? It may be easier said than done, and it may take time, but there are steps you can take while still at your current job to change your situation. Consider what purposes you want your job to serve, and align your actions with those goals.
5- What does my higher self do for fun?
No matter what your relationship with work is like, life isn’t meant to be all work and no play, certainly not long-term! What hobbies, interests, etc. have you felt compelled to explore but haven’t yet (or just not as extensively as you’d like)? Now’s your time to do so, for your higher self’s sake! Ideally, you have a few primary hobbies, each with a different vibe (ex: creative vs. active, thought-provoking vs. mindless, social vs. solitary, etc.). The more well-rounded your sources of fun are, the more fulfilled you’ll be from all angles!
6- How does my higher self dress / physically present to the world?
While stepping into your higher self is about so much beneath the surface, your self-presentation does play a role. The more you like the way you look, the more confidence you’ll exude! It’s not a matter of following the trends or fitting any other one person’s standard of beauty. It’s about being able to look in the mirror and admire what you see. It may take some experimentation to figure out what looks suit you best, but it’s worth it to give yourself that extra boost!
7- What kinds of habits, routines, and lifestyle choices are part of my higher self’s life?
This one encompasses all the miscellaneous parts of your life and schedule. Eating habits, exercise regimens, hydration, hygiene, organization, you name it! It’s the little things you do consistently that add up to the bigger picture of who you are. Think about what regular actions would create your ideal self-portrait, and integrate them into your life!
8- What are a few words I’d use to sum up my higher self?
This one pretty much summarizes everything above. If there are characteristics you haven’t fully embodied yet but want to, now’s the time to lean into them. Your desire to embody them shows that they’re already within you; you just have to unlock them! Let your answers above act as a guide for how to unlock them slowly but surely!
The bottom line…
Your higher self isn’t a perfect version of you. (Otherwise, all of our higher selves might as well be the same person!) It’s simply a version you’re proud to be and feel deeply aligned with. The answers to these questions are subject to change over time as your desires, goals, identity, relationships, etc. evolve. That’s okay, because it’s only natural for your higher self to evolve throughout your life! In the meantime, take your current answers and roll with them!