Ways That Attraction Goes Beyond Looks: Become Your Most Attractive

While appearance plays a significant role in attraction, what if you could enhance your physical attractiveness from the inside out? I’m here to tell you, you absolutely can! You can probably find proof of that by looking at your very own experiences. Think of a time you weren’t initially attracted to someone, but something about them beneath the surface made you see them in a whole new light. Suddenly, their eyes started looking a little dreamier to you, or their smile gave you butterflies. If you’re looking to glow up from the inside out yourself, look no further than this post! Below are some qualities that, the more you can embody them, the more magnetic you’ll become. Not just to prospective partners (or your significant other if you have one), but to your own self!

1- Confidence

If you’ve read my post 7 Manifestations of Confidence + How to Embody Them, you know that attraction is one of those manifestations! In other words, confidence manifests in not only feeling but looking your best. There’s nothing quite like that confident glow! Of course, as that post also explains, confidence does NOT equal cockiness. In fact, true confidence goes hand in hand with humility. Humbly knowing your worth and carrying around that quietly confident energy will attract those who do the same. Be sure to read that post if you haven’t already, as it gives lots of confidence-boosting advice!

2- Positivity

There’s just something about someone with positive energy that makes you want to be around them more. As we’ve explored in previous posts, of course that doesn’t mean naivety or dismissal of emotions. It means adopting an all-around healthy mindset that might just be contagious to those around you. If you’re a regular reader of this blog, chances are, having a good mindset is a priority for you. If it’s your first time here, be sure to catch up on old posts, especially Monthly Mindset Shifts. With a positive outlook on life, you’re bound to attract those with a similar outlook!

3- Loving your life

This goes hand in hand with the first two, as it encompasses both confidence and positivity. Someone who loves their life is a naturally happy person who has a lot going for them. When you fill your time with things that make you happy, people will be drawn to you! Take this as your sign to pick up hobbies, work toward your goals (career and otherwise), and spend time with loved ones. It all adds up and makes you a more passionate person, in the best of ways. The more you love your life, the less likely you are to settle in romantic relationships. You don’t need just any partner, because you’re content without one. You only want one that adds to your already beautiful life. Now that’s attractive!

4- Intelligence of any kind

Intelligence comes in countless forms. Creativity, analytical thinking, mathematical thinking, wisdom, problem-solving, a strong memory, the list goes on. If you weren’t the highest-performing student in school, or certain academic subjects have always felt overwhelming to you, don’t fret. You can be smart in so many other ways! To circle back to having passions, if you’re passionate about anything, chances are, you have a lot of knowledge surrounding it. You also probably have a lot of insight to add to conversations about it. Don’t underestimate your intelligence, however it may present itself. In fact, share it with others, because it’s oh so attractive!

5- A big heart

If you look at just about anyone’s relationship standards list, some variation of “big heart” is probably on there. This looks like genuine kindness, passion, having a lot of love to give, having pure intentions, etc. If you’ve felt like your big heart only attracts those who take advantage of it, I understand how discouraging that can feel. However, I encourage you to be patient. In due time, it will attract those whose hearts are just as big. May this be your sign not to change due to certain past experiences, as tempting as it might be. Your heart is a large part of what makes you who you are—AND what makes you so attractive!

The bottom line…

When it comes to attraction, looks aren’t “nothing”, but they certainly aren’t everything. If you want to boost your own attractiveness, lean into the items on this list. They don’t require a whole new wardrobe or lots of beauty products. They just require you to tap into your best traits and share them with the world. You never know who’s watching!